For guys only: keeping tabs on your woman?

would prefer other males to answer please. I鈥檓 quite a suspicious of my girlfriend. She a very attractive double D. She gets constant male attention in the most ridiculous circumstances, other guys with tongues literally hanging out. You can imagine how irritating it gets. Anyway I was wondering how you keep you women in check %26amp; stay clued up. I鈥檝e demanded that I have access to her email %26amp; moby at all times. I鈥檝e also taken to inspecting her underwear (without her knowledge). I rifle through her handbag for anything I can find too. Is there anyway else I could be more thorough? Any tips?





Cheers.For guys only: keeping tabs on your woman?
I know exactly what this is like. Ignore ppl with low standards in women. You have to protect your interests like an investment 鈥?like they say, alls fair in love an war. It the law of the jungle when it comes to love. I wired a concealed micro recorder on our phone line. You can buy them on eBay. Also, check for signs like her shaving her public hair or wearing makeup when she doesn鈥檛 need to. There are several other obvious tell tale signs- how does she dress for work? Is she suddenly making an extra effort on her looks?





%26gt; Oh look at all the adulterous women marking their 'secrets revealed' down.For guys only: keeping tabs on your woman?
Stop this behaviour now! This is a sure way to loose a woman.



Even if she is getting male attention, or even flirting with other men, this does not mean that she is cheating. You must trust her 鈥?unless you have proof that you can not. And that does not mean that you can invade her privacy to look for evidence.



Consider this 鈥?who would you rather be with: someone who trusts you or someone who checks up on you all the time. Exactly.

I'm sure she feels the same way.
Umm, you need to trust her. If you don't have trust in a relationship, what do you have? You can't watch her every minute of the day. If you don't trust her, don't date her. I wonder why she's dating you.
Well, honestly, trust is a big part of a relationship, and if you don't trust her to be faithful, I seriously doubt your relationship will go far. You need to trust her more, and stop doing all of that stuff.
You shouldn't be with the girl if you cant trust her. You shouldn't be going through her things and checking up on her that is going to push her away and if she gets so much attention she will move on quickly and u'll be alone.
If you got a good friend who you trust; a good looking guy.... ask him to hit on her %26amp; have him ask her if she got a boy friend..see what she does. But don麓t be surprised if it back fires in your face.
You need to get real lad!



If you dont trust her, then you cant love her - simple as!



If all else fails, keep the relationship open, that way if she does the dirty on you - you arent too attached
Tab the phone, put camera's in house.



Or



just be happy that you have a babe with DD's and sleep well
Another grand example of an insecure guy being a complete whack job. You do not need access to her email, you dont need to rifle through her bad, and WTF is with checking her underwear? Seriously?



Do her a favor and let her go, because untill you fix your insecurities, you are just going to make things worse for no reason. I had a girl once who was similar in the only aspect you described. I had no problem if other guys looked at her, you know why? Because its my arm wrapped around her waist and not theirs.



So really next time you get jealous because some other guy is looking at her, slap yourself, because you are being retarded.
I think you need to be less demanding to her upfront, nothing like rebelling when she is feeling repressed. Ask her about her day and actually listen. Not only are you satisfying her need for emotional connection, her need to gab about everything, and her need to gossip BUT you also are receiving critical intel on what is going on in her mind.



Check out her eye movements (check the link for more on this) and take notes on when she lies (no matter how small). Ask her about those events tomorrow, You will get points for listening and now she will have to remember exactly what she said yesterday.



If the two events don't match up or she starts scrambling for some lame *** answers then you know its a serious lie. Its fine to be jealous but you are going about it the wrong way.



1. less sex with you than normal? she is getting it somewhere else

2. no longer interested in sex? same deal

3. she talks about a ';friend'; we all know what a ';friend'; is, its the dude banging your girl.



what you need

* A level head. Do not fly into an emotional rage or you WILL make mistakes.

* A serious sense of identity. When you're thinking short-term and small perspective, you will not be able to cope with everything. You as a person are more important than any relationship, and any relationship that can't be worked out isn't worth sacrificing yourself for.

* Connections. Get to know the people close to her its not needed but knowing her friends could ultimately mean that you can use them to confront her about it.



ultimately the only way to confirm if a girl is cheating is to catch her in the act.
Okay, i'm not a male, but I understand your situation, HOWEVER, you have taken it to a WAYYY far extreme!!! Checking her underwear!?? Seriously? That's creepy. It shows nothing other than the fact that you are incredibly controlling and insecure. If she knew this, she would be gone in an instant! You might want to chill out because to be honest, it's types of men like you who are the ones who get so jealous over dumb things and end up killing their girlfriends. I suggest you take a serious chill pill.



If she wanted to be with those other men, she would be. She obviously doesn't NEED you, but rather, she WANTS you. I don't know why though, seeing as how you have no trust in her whatsoever. And if you keep up this creepy, stalker-like behavior, her ';wanting'; you, will change very quickly.



Why don't you try talking to her? Has she ever given you a reason not to trust her?? If she allows you access to her email and moby, then she obviously has nothing to hide. Most women would laugh in your face if you ';demanded'; access to their email. And her purse is a very personal place, and you should not have access to it unless this is a very serious relationship, otherwise, she deserves to hit you with it. I allow my fiance access to my purse anytime, because I have nothing to hide. Keyword there being ';FIANCE.'; But he doesn't feel right digging in it, even if it's to get a pen out. You have some serious jealously issues, and insecurity issues. I would get myself checked out by a professional if I were you.



If you can't handle being with an attractive woman who gets lots of attention, then perhaps you shouldn't date her.