What is Sexual Passion and can it make someone not love you.?

Please help my head think clearly here.



My bf got upset at me and left this morning because he said last Feb. when I told him that he was the greatest lover because I hated intercourse before, that is twas always painful to me with my ex husband because he was bigger and now with him, it felt so good and I am actually having orgasms through intercourse, something I have never done before, he said that statement of telling him my ex was bigger was like chopping his dick off.



But he wanted to move past it, so he told me what I needed to do. He said you need to show me desire, you need to let me know I am the greatest lover and make me feel that.



He said to me this morning, you tell me how much pleasure my tongue gives you, yet the way you make me feel is that if it got chopped off tomorrow you would be, honey I am so sorry, it will be ok. I told him I would not be happy that something that could give me alot of pleasure could no longer be but I also know we could figure out something else and my main concern would be you. He said that right there is it in a nutshell. His tongue being cut off is not all that important because it was really not all that good and desirable.



He also said, you come out in a nightie and I show no interest, desire is saying screw you and getting up and going into the bedroom to use your vibrator. He asked me how I would feel if I did that and he walked in. I told him I would be sad that it was not you doing that to me because a vibrator can't compare to what you do to me, it is not what I wanted. He asked me to be honest, so I told him that when I came out to you and you basically rejected me, going in a grabbing a vibrator would not be something I would find myself doing because what I was desiring was you. Your tongue can only make me feel that way, not a vibrator and I would feel hurt and that would turn me off and thinking about going into the bedroom and turning the vibrator on would probably not be something I would find myself doing. He said see there again you go...cutting me down as to what I am trying to show you desire is.



He left saying I want to kill desire in our relationship. That I don't have desire, that I will do anything to make him feel bad about himself and not care. He told me that I asked you for what I need. I need you to show me desire and if that means behaving like someone your not, you made the comment, you needed to help me get back on track and you have choosen not to. He said I have choosen not to want to get to know him sexually and that makes him feel bad about himself too because I just don't care.



I told him doesn't the women coming on in the sexy night show desire, she wants you to make love to her, I would tell him what I wanted him to do to me or what I wanted. He said no that is not desire. Desire is a strong need to get what you want and you won't stop until you get it and you show nothing like that in this bedroom. Point is I do desire him so much, but I can't seem to get it across to make him see it. He says it is because I don't have it, because if I did, I would know how to show it. I just feel so sad...What is Sexual Passion and can it make someone not love you.?
sry but this guy sounds like an idiot ';ohh so his dick is bigger than mine?? well then you have no desire'; you need to have a nice long talk with him and if he still doesnt understand, he is the one without desireWhat is Sexual Passion and can it make someone not love you.?
wow, you found yourself one screwed up guy. End it before you get more attached.
You should not have told him that he was smaller than your ex-husband. His ego is hurt. I know women who tell me I am big although I know I am only average in size (yes, I measured it). But the girls told me that to boost my ego because a lot of guys think the bigger the better.



So when you said sex was better with him because he was smaller that really blew him. You compared him with your husband and he came in short (no pun intended). I did not matter that you thought his was the right size for you. Now he wants to put the blame on you because he finds it more difficult to ';perform'; after he found out he was smaller.



He has an ego problem. I am not sure how to help you but maybe you should seek counseling or some kind of professional help. He should be able to overcome his inferiority complex.
100% honestly is not always the best policy?
First of all, you owe him an apology for even mentions your ex husband and sex in the same sentence. Tell him that you will never mention your ex again. Also he probably wants you to take control over sex. Sound like you lie back and want him to please you and the heck with what he wants. Time for you to step up to the plate. Let him lie back and you take control for a change.
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omg girl why post a book ? simple he has intimacy issues u obviously don't but u never ever tell a guy ur last man was larger than the present 1 !!! man u screwed up big !! Why it took him 2 months to speak is lame too he's trying to play some sort of head game on u but u really should kick this clown to the curb how can he tell u what u do %26amp; don't feel anwser he can't get a man u can be relaxed with %26amp; on equal terms this fool ain't the 1 :)d
The truth is you both need couseling! He like most guys are idiots and the fact that he asks you to tell him he's the greatest most likely means he is not very selfassured and you need to let go a little ..Sex just isn't sex its the most significant voice anyone has in a relationship! If the only conversation and the only thing you guys have in common is sex then you need to get more experience and find someone who loves you for you and not just sex!
Well if he does not understand that your atire shows what you want the tell him come out in your nighty and say i want you to f*** me. and if he shows no desire beg that will make him feel like a man even though you compared him to your ex.



P.S in the future do not compare any man to a previous man if what your going to say is negative. It is easiest to just stay away from that subject



Good luck
NEVER EVER tell a man his weenie is little or smaller than someone elses. They take great pride thinking they are the alpha male.



He sounds very insecure and yes sexual incompatibility can break a relationship.
You have asked this question three times already.. Get off the computer, and do something about it!!